15 Stress-Free Holiday Reminders to Help You Stay Calm This Season
A cozy guide for staying calm, grounded, and emotionally balanced this holiday season.
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‘Tis the season to be jolly, am I right?
Well, if you landed on this blog post, chances are, for you, it’s the season that feels like an ultra marathon: prep, bake, prepare, sort, make, buy, return, ask, do, and maybe rest.
Maybe.
If there’s time, ‘cause who’s going to tell the family we need to make new Christmas pictures this year?
So this year, instead of running around like a headless turkey, I want you to fully feel the holidays coming, but from a warm, inviting, calm, relaxed state of being.
No more of that frenetic energy. We are leaving that behind in 2025.
Here is a collection of 15 nuggets of wisdom for you to choose and implement in this upcoming holiday season:
1. Your calm is not a luxury. It is a need.
If you’re not calm, no one is. And you know how much the holidays depend on you to be the rock of the family.
In no way am I saying “do everything like you do every year, but somehow stay chill”. Because that would be bad advice. And I’d be lying if I told you you can do it.
Instead, this time I want you to prioritize your peace, your calm, your well-being above all else.
Watch how greatly things turn out and unfold all the while you preserve your most precious gift: your wellbeing.
2. You can leave early. You can say no. You can choose differently.
Here’s the permission slip you’ve been looking for this year: if you don’t want to be somewhere for a long time, don’t be.
I know, I know, the people-pleaser inside you is probably screaming: “but I can’t just leave 30 minutes after arriving with my whole family to his family just because I want to enjoy more quiet moments to myself, and grandma Agnes is too loud for me”.
She’s not wrong about leaving so soon, but she is wrong about having an all or nothing mentality.
If you’ve felt like this holiday season is all about sacrifice (make the food for your family to enjoy during Christmas, put up and decorate the Christmas tree, run errands and buy gifts and hide them around the house, etc.) – then I need you to stop and breathe.
Seriously, you’ve done more than enough and no one is going to die if you leave a couple hours earlier than you used to.
“But what if the kids want to stay longer?” Perfect! Let them! Let them stay more, play more, eat more. Let them come home with dad, later in the evening. Or let them stay over at grandma & grandpa’s.
3. Not every comment needs a response. Protect your peace.
This goes hand in hand with the reminder above. But why is it so potent and strong and why do you feel it’s so true? Because if you are having guests over (or if you are going as guest), chances are, you won’t be able to control and predict what other people will say to you or about you.
And if you are used to hearing mean comments from Grandma Jill every year, let them be this year.
Let them fall off your shoulders like a feather that barely touched you and fell directly to the ground after that.
Don’t engage, don’t reply, don’t show them their comment got to you because you’ll be giving away your power.
Smile, nod along, and ask someone to pass you that delicious cranberry sauce.
You deserve it, all of it.
But most importantly, you deserve your peace and no one else deserves to take that away from you.
4. Some people are “optional holiday characters.” It’s okay to step back.
Think of them as “holiday characters” that you must greet, exchange pleasantries, ask about their grandchildren, smile, and happily shut the freakin’ front door in their face when they leave.
You don’t need to “perform” or be on top, or show them “We are such a great family, here’s what we did this year”. Don’t do any of that.
No power games, no competition, no comparison.
Peace is your final reward and if you do any of that, you’ve already lost it.
So instead, sit back, relax, let someone else offer to help set the table and arrange the cutlery.
You just need to look at the pretty Christmas lights surrounding you and smile. That’s it.
5. You’re allowed to create your own version of the holidays.
Heck, you’re even cooler by doing this.
Who said Santa needs to come to your house every frosty freakin’ year? Maybe Santa likes to enjoy a Pina Colada on the beach as much as you do.
My point being, not every family tradition needs to be done the exact same way every year. A family tradition you like and care about can still be done every year, but if doing the same thing over and over again feels like it drains you instead of energizing you, maybe it’s time to suggest to your husband a Christmas in the Bahamas this year and see if the boys are up for some snorkeling instead of reciting poetry at the family reunion.
6. Other people’s expectations are not your obligations.
There will always be someone who thinks you should cook more, host more, smile more, decorate more, or basically become the CEO of Christmas Spirit Inc.
But none of that is your actual job.
Your only job is to take care of your energy, your time, and your emotional bandwidth.
If something drains you, you’re allowed to opt out.
Expectations belong to the person who created them, not the person they tried to place them on.
7. Santa would understand if you need to hide in the bathroom for a minute.
Listen… even Santa disappears for a second when the elves start getting loud. You think he just stands there with 47 sugar-high reindeer prancing around? Absolutely not. He takes a breather.
So if you find yourself overwhelmed by back-to-back conversations, loud kids, loud adults, or the emotional Olympic Games of family gatherings, GO!
Step into the bathroom, close the door, take three slow breaths, and come back to yourself.
This is not avoiding people. This is high-level nervous system maintenance, and honestly, Santa would be proud. I know I am. 💖🥹
Self-regulation is a Christmas miracle all on its own.
Extra Holiday Reminders to Help You Feel Better Instantly 🤗
- Your resting Grinch Face is valid.
- Holiday shopping counts as cardio — you’re basically an athlete.
- You’re not avoiding “family drama”, you’re practicing advanced nervous system regulation.
- If they don’t like your cooking, they’re welcome to try making it better.
- A calm moment is more valuable than a perfect moment.
- Your mental health matters more than matching pajamas.
- If your kids are yelling, take a deep breath and pretend to be in a mindfulness retreat – but the retreat is a little chaotic. 😅
And finally…
- You don’t have to pretend you love everyone’s casserole.
Final Thoughts
Enjoy the holidays,
Protect your peace,
And don’t care about what other people think.
It’s you who is the most important person in your life and it’s you who we want you to please. Not your mom, your spouse, your kids, your aunt, your neighbour.
You.
Merry Christmas and Calm Holidays, everyone!
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